Actions Speak Louder Than Words...

I've been having conversations with several old friends about a subject that seems to hit home for many people. It all started with this quote:

‎"There comes a point when you have to realize you'll never be good enough for some people. The question is: Is that your problem or theirs?"

I keep asking myself over and over and over... how can it be SO HARD to simply let go of people who have obviously moved on in their lives... and that includes pushing you out of it. It would seem like such a simple feat. Someone doesn't care for you or like you or prefers to be around different people... and we beat ourselves up about it.

I know these questions constantly are racing through my head; Is it me? What did I do wrong? Why can't things be the same between us anymore? What can I do to fix this?.....

It has finally hit home that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. It is them. It is their loss, not mine. Why do we find ourself wanting to be around people who don't care to be around us? This is the hardest part. Letting go of these insecurities and self-doubt. We must make up our mind to let go of those who only bring us down. Perhaps they see themselves in a better light to see us struggle... why give them that power? 

It is true that we are our own worst enemy. Half of the battle is severing the tie and the other half is being at peace with our decision.

This past year has been a year of reflection for me. Personally, I know that no matter what distance or time separates us, I will always love you for the good times we have had and have become a better person from the bad ones.

I hope we can all be at ease with the decisions we make in life. In the end, we ultimately only need to please ourselves.


Jess said...

Amen, sista!